When you’re going through a divorce, some days you’ll just end up feeling dreadful. Maybe it’s today, perhaps you’ve just stumbled upon Bluemoonblog looking for divorce info after receiving or sending your divorce petition, maybe you are wondering how you are going to deal with all these negative feelings of hurt, feeling low, and are struggling for answers.

Here are a few points that might help you get your head around things there are no solutions, just a few little guidelines borne from my own experience of living through a divorce.

• Go out for a long walk and clear your head. It’s amazing how much a stiff brisk walk can help you unwind and release those tensions
• Ring a friend and talk it through with them, don’t let your thoughts and feelings run riot, a problem shared is a problem halved
• Just because a solicitor’s letter says that your ex wants everything you own and a few pounds more, doesn’t mean that they’ll get it. Stay calm, pass the letter to your solicitor, or go and make an appointment to get some advice. You’ll feel better for having taken a positive step – give yourself a sense of empowerment and control.
• Go out and treat yourself to something nice. Buy yourself that top you saw in the shop the other day, treat yourself to that nice box of speciality chocolates you like, or perhaps treat yourself to new scent for all those lucky people who are going to get to meet you at some point down the road.
• Remind yourself that you are just having a bad day. It’s totally normal to have bad days. You’d be a weirdo if you didn’t have bad days. Divorce sucks after all, but it gets better, remind yourself of that fact and believe it too. Above all, remember that your friends or your family or your children all love you dearly, whatever has happened there’s nothing anyone on earth can do to change that.

Maybe you have some tips too, perhaps you’d like to share them here so others can benefit from your experience.

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